How to Stop Obsessing Over Your SP (And Start Manifesting Faster)

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Jul 20
8 min read

Updated: Jul 23

Learn how to stop obsessing over your SP and manifest your SP back using proven psychology and manifestation science. Regain your power and start manifesting love faster.

Disclaimer: This blog post is for informational and educational purposes only and does not constitute professional, medical, psychological, or financial advice. While I reference scientific studies and psychological principles, results are not guaranteed as individual experiences will vary. Always consult with a qualified professional before making any decisions regarding your mental health, relationships, or finances. By reading this post, you acknowledge and accept full responsibility for your own decisions and outcomes.

Let’s be honest. Learning how to stop obsessing over your SP can feel impossible when you are stuck in the spiral. I have seen it time and time again as a certified relationship coach. People come to me after spending months stuck in obsessive thoughts, refreshing social media feeds, and losing sleep trying to figure out where it all went wrong. They feel like their entire daily life revolves around this one person. If this sounds like you, I want you to know you are not alone.

For a long time, I watched so many clients torture themselves in this exact challenging situation. They did everything the law of attraction told them to do. They tried affirmations, revisions, visualizations, journaling, and constant obsessive thinking. Yet nothing changed. That’s because nobody talks about the science behind why this happens or how to break free in order to manifest their desires.

This post will teach you how to stop obsessing over your SP using real psychology and manifestation science. You will learn healthier ways to shift your energy, reconnect with your confidence, and feel magnetic again. You are safe here. You will not be chasing your specific person. You will be learning to rewire your conscious mind, calm your nervous system, and step back into your power.

Why Obsession Blocks Your Manifestation

First, we need to understand the science behind why obsession keeps you stuck and block your manifestations. When you spiral in obsessive behavior, your brain forms strong cognitive brain networks around lack and fear. This is not just mindset, it's neuroplasticity. Repeating negative thoughts, especially intrusive thoughts about your SP leaving or ignoring you, strengthens those neural pathways in your brain.

Over time, this teaches your logical mind to believe your beliefs, such as you experience rejection more than connection. When your brain is wired to these negative beliefs such as you need to chase, you'll be rejected or you need to obsess over someone, it cannot attract. Obsession activates the worst-case scenarios in your nervous system. This forces your body into survival mode, making it feel like not hearing from your SP is the end of the world. This cycle blocks your emotional well-being and keeps you trapped in low self-esteem.

To add to this, your subconscious mind filters every experience you have. Your reticular activating system controls what you notice and what you ignore. When you are stuck in obsessive thinking, your brain literally filters out positive outcomes and proof that you are desirable, keeping stuck in the loop, because your reality then reinforces your beliefs by attracting outcomes that match you beliefs.

If you have not read it yet, check out my post on The Science Behind Manifestation. It explains why your brain, thoughts, and energy shape your reality more than your words ever will.

The first step to breaking this is recognizing obsessive and negative thoughts creates more lack, not love. This lack is then broadcasted out to the universe, to your SP etc. via your electro magnetic frequency (More on this next).

When you change your thoughts, and calm your parasympathetic nervous system, you deactivate survival mode. This returns your body to a regulated state, making you more magnetic and attractive without doing anything externally. Once you shift energy will shift first, and your romantic relationships will follow.

Shift Your Energy, Shift Your Results

Now that you understand the science, let’s talk about what actually creates magnetic energy and makes you attractive. Shifting your energy is not about obsessing over your specific person or trying to control their actions. It is about bringing your energy back to you.

You also need to understand how your electromagnetic frequency plays a major role here. People can physically feel your energy, whether you realize it or not. When you are fixated on someone, chasing their attention, or stuck in obsessive thinking, your energy feels heavy and desperate. Think about when you meet someone and you can immediately sense their desperation for you to to like them, it is uncomfortable, right? Now imagine the opposite. When you pull your energy back to yourself and focus on living your life fully, your frequency feels light, grounded, and attractive. People, including your SP, feel that shift, and are naturally attracted to you.

Think about it, your SP was probably drawn to your energy when you were excited about your own world, before the obsession with them started. The goal now is to come back to that version of you, or an even better one. .

Start by asking yourself: what was I getting from my SP that I can give to myself? Maybe they made you feel loved, excited about life, or hopeful about your future. Your first step is to create those feelings in your own life. Create moments in your daily life where you feel joy, connection, and possibility without your SP involved. Focus on your own dreams, your passions, your personal growth and connections.

Energy shifts happen when you reconnect with the things that make you feel alive. The more you pour into your own life, the more magnetic you become. Everyone, including your SP, will naturally want to be part of it.

Yes, you can still practice tools like the mental diet or visualization. Replace negative thoughts as they come, picture your dream relationship, and anchor into positive emotions. But always remember, your job is not to chase. Your job is to draw your energy back to focusing on yourself, and to build a life so good it becomes obvious why your SP would want to be part of it.

Why Surrender Speeds Up Manifestation

Now, let me explain why surrender is your secret weapon. In my experience as a coach, everytime my clients shifted their reality fast was when they truly surrendered. When they stopped chasing and started filling up their own cups, their SP returned faster than expected.

When you surrender, your nervous system exits survival mode. This opens you up to more positive emotions and releases resistance. People respond to this shift immediately, because their mirror neurons can feel the shift in energy being taken away from them and focused back on you, via your electro magnetic frequency. The more you feel peaceful, grounded, and attractive, the more they can feel this magnetic version of you. This is because you have stepped into the version of yourself who already has their desire.

Remember, your SP feels your energy. They feel it when you are needy. They feel it when you are empowered. Choosing surrender is choosing alignment with love and trusting the process.

How Visualization and Identity Shifting Rewire Your Attraction Energy

Visualization and identity work are two of the most effective tools to shift your subconscious mind and transform your energy quickly. When used with techniques like your mental diet, thought redirection, and focusing on your own goals, they create a powerful shift that your SP feels without you saying a word.

Identity shifting helps you become magnetic by default. When you practice bringing your energy back to yourself, focus on who you are becoming. Your self concept controls how you show up in every interaction. Start seeing yourself as someone who is chosen, loved, and deeply secure. Support this by doing things that make you excited about life. For example, working on your own goals, creating fun in your daily life, and reconnecting with people and activities that fill your cup. Every time you act from this identity, you shift your energy, reinforce positive outcomes, and naturally stop obsessive behavior.

Visualization works best when it changes your emotional state. It is not just about picturing your specific person sending you a message. It is about creating the positive emotions you want to feel in your daily life. Visualize simple, calming scenes where you already have a committed relationship with your SP. Let it feel easy, secure, and natural. Pair this with your mental diet by replacing negative thoughts with these comforting feelings throughout your day. This helps retrain your cognitive brain networks and builds an electromagnetic frequency of calm confidence instead of desperation.

These tools work together to help you become the version of you who already has what she desires. When you focus on your own fulfillment, pair it with visualization and identity shifting, your SP and everyone else around you feel that shift, and they want to be part of your world.

Practical Steps to Stop Obsessing and Manifest Faster

Here are the exact steps I teach clients asking how to stop obsessing over your SP and feel more magnetic:

Step 1: Reclaim your energy by focusing on your own life.

Your first step is to bring your energy back to you. Instead of pouring it into social media stalking or intrusive thoughts about your SP, redirect it into your own goals, passions, and daily joys. Focus on becoming the version of yourself who feels alive, excited, and fulfilled. When you shift into your own life, your electromagnetic frequency instantly becomes lighter, attractive and more magnetic, which people, including you SP, can feel.

Step 2: Interrupt obsessive and negative thought loops.

Whenever obsessive thoughts pop up, catch them early. Use a mental diet to flip negative thoughts into calm, positive ones. You are not ignoring your feelings, you are retraining your cognitive brain networks to expect love and positive outcomes. Over time, this breaks the cycle of obsessive behavior and rewires your brain for attraction.

Step 3: Practice identity shifting in your daily life.Your self concept shapes your reality more than anything else. Start showing up as the version of you who is loved, wanted, and fulfilled. Focus on building a life that feels good without needing your SP to complete it. Every time you act from this identity, whether it’s working toward personal goals, seeing good friends, or simply enjoying your daily life, you shift your electromagnetic frequency and become naturally magnetic.

Step 4: Use visualization to anchor into positive emotions.

Visualization is a tool to rehearse the feeling of already having your committed relationship. Keep it simple. Choose calm, peaceful scenes that make you feel secure and loved. The goal is not to obsess over details but to feel safe and connected in your body, which naturally shifts your energy away from worst-case scenarios and into love.

Step 5: Surrender and let your energy do the work.

Finally, release the need to control. When you surrender, you stop chasing, calm your nervous system, and let your energy draw love to you without effort. People respond to this shift immediately because your electromagnetic frequency becomes softer, calmer, and more attractive. This is where the real magic happens.

At the end of the day, learning how to stop obsessing over your SP is the most powerful shift you can make. This is how you collapse time, regulate your body, and create positive effects in your love life. You are not doomed by your attachment styles, and you are not stuck in bad things forever.

The truth is, you don’t need to practice daily techniques. You need the right strategy. You need tools like identity-shifting, energy redirection, mindfulness practices, and a focus on self-sourced fulfillment.

Manifesting love does not have to feel heavy. Reconnect with good friends, pursue your own goals, and enjoy life again. The second you stop chasing, your SP will feel the shift. You will manifest from calm confidence, not from obsessive lack behavior. And you will see just how quickly life brings you exactly what you desire.